I took some time alone to sort things out. I was reading books. I took out our wedding album. I was going through the pictures and felt very good. I picked one photo, one pose that I loved the most.
I blew the picture and hang it in our living room.. and a few in my room. Iwas enjoying what i did. I got a chance to show her that i still want her back. A few days after receiving the roses, my wife called, as the date fof the concert is approaching. She sounded a little perplexed. Weirder still, she was concern and confused about me reactions. She asked me whether will we be going to the concert.
I told her that i have the ticket booked on friday night and even the hotel. Just waiting for her to pack her bag and follow me to the concert. There was a silence. A dead silence. Then a colder tone replaced the earlier one and my wife excused herself.
I wasn't sure about it. But, i tried to ignore it. But, i was extremely surprise to receive a phone call from her. I think it is one of the greatest breakthrough.
The next morning, i saw a note on the table. It stated that I will come with you to India.
I was really on the moon. This is the first time in my life I will be going out with my wife. Cloud 9 is below my feet. I was already flying before i get on the flight.
We were in the airport. She smiled at me. I smiled back and remained calm. She said thank you. I smiled at her back.
Truthfully, I was feeling happy today. I was honest with myself, I loved him and did not want a divorce. I believe marriage is forever. I believed this women was my soulmate. I started to feel confident in myself. I have a feeling that we will make it. our marriage will be successful.
Before our trip, I read the book page to page twice. I even have a short note
The book was very big on not giving your power away, yet communication fully with an open heart, which is what I vowed to do. It stresses that you should be friendly, light hearted and happy with yourself. Being happy with yourself is a huge key, because you're not going to attract the relationship you want if you yourself are miserable.
Everything you do needs to be genuine or something you are comfortable with. If you just play games, it will eventually come back to haunt you because you can't maintain a facade that is not really you.
Now, i and my wife's friend. I am happy. And i am genuinely light hearted.
Our trip was fun a time. She really enjoyed the concert. She was wearing the saree that i bought for her after out wedding. She looked gorgeous in it. I continuously with her. I never thought about our divorce. I was enjoying her company.
We had our dinner at Chennai before flying back home. She was very happy and was continuously talking about the concert. I was enjoying the conversation. That was the first we talk so much for so long after 6 months of marriage.
On Monday morning, i received another note.
Thank you very much for the great moments. I am very happy and I appreciateit from the bottom of my heart. Thank you.
Despite the technology that we have today, note writing seem to find a way to save our marriage.
But, I am running out of time. My divorce will be confirmed in 30 days.
I tried to remain calm and positive.
But, believe it or not, my wife started to initiate calls. Our new friendship is creating a fresh air, a new hope...
My wife would sometimes call when i am busy, but i need to make her feel valued. I needed him to know that I too was a valuable person with goals, hobbies and interests, which is what he loved about me in the first place. We started out just writing notes and moved on to talking in the phone during lunch breaks. One day at a time just repeating what seemed to be working - light hearted, friendly and interested.
Unbelievably, she prepared breakfast and dinner for me.
No more desperation. No more giving my power away. I held my head sky high but my heart was wide open.
Days were approaching. Our divorce date were approaching. I just keptdoing what I had been doing and things kept improving, we didn't specifically disscuss it. We just enjoyed the positive changes that began to make the relationship feel much more effortless.
So, what happened at the end?
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